Girlfriend just doesn't understand

Russellm0704 · Sep 11, 2011

Anyone else have boyfriends/girlfriends/wife/husband that doesn't seem to happy everytime you talk about or get another gecko? Everytime I want to spend money on another gecko or on a rack or something my girlfriend gets mad about it and says I don't need anymore. Am I alone on this one? I love my girlfriend and would be lost without her but I wish she would just understand the excitement and joy that gecko collecting brings. Not sure if anyone cares about this but just wondering if anyone has run into the same sort of situation

Klogue1 · Sep 11, 2011

Basically the same for me, except it's with my parents. Although I'll be moving out soon, and taking ALL my animals with me (quite a few haha!), they just don't understand, as you put it. My mother is a bit more giving on the "situation", but my father would kill me if I brought home another animal (of any kind!)

He's already mad that my mother and I brought in two kittens someone left in a box in the back of my grandpa's truck (who would do that?!), but I think he's warming up to them... Anyways, getting off topic, sort of. ;P

Edit: I don't exactly mean mad, just that he knows we don't really need any more animals... in his opinion lol.

reps4life · Sep 11, 2011

OMG, YES, lol My boyfriend just ignores me. Sometimes I feel like he gets jealous of the attention. I think that unless you have a partner who shares the same passion for reptiles as we do the relationship will eventually end or become sour. I would think they should at least be happy to see us happy. When I have tried to explain he at least makes pretend he understands, but eventually goes back to his old self.

5HiddenLizards · Sep 11, 2011

My bf is supportive, which is great, if it weren't for him, I'd just have 3 lizards, but thanks to him we have 7. Three of which are monitors/tegu... :-\ ....which wouldn't be so bad if he hadn't bought them all on impulse & just because he wanted them. My only beef with him is because he takes NO PART in their care whatsoever. I've asked him to feed them the days I work late, but nothing. Not even to change out a water dish!

I just wish that he would at least try to help with them, since 4 of them are technically HIS. But I guess this is just too much to ask of someone who never took proper care of any of their animals, especially someone who had a pack of tick ridden dogs, that were not fixed, who had multiple litters of puppies every year unsupervised, without ANY vet care whatsoever.

And do not get me started on how much he complained about buying everything they needed for proper care....

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reps4life · Sep 11, 2011

5HiddenLizards said:
My bf is supportive, which is great, if it weren't for him, I'd just have 3 lizards, but thanks to him we have 7. Three of which are monitors/tegu... :-\ ....which wouldn't be so bad if he hadn't bought them all on impulse & just because he wanted them. My only beef with him is because he takes NO PART in their care whatsoever. I've asked him to feed them the days I work late, but nothing. Not even to change out a water dish!

I just wish that he would at least try to help with them, since 4 of them are technically HIS. But I guess this is just too much to ask of someone who never took proper care of any of their animals, especially someone who had a pack of tick ridden dogs, that were not fixed, who had multiple litters of puppies every year unsupervised, without ANY vet care whatsoever.

And do not get me started on how much he complained about buying everything they needed for proper care....

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lol, I went thru the same thing when my bf decided to get 2 sav's. I was stuck doing every single thing. Feeding, cleaning 2 large cages, taking them to the vet, ect. They became mine after he realized they needed to be cared for and the expense. Now he wants nothing to do with reptiles.

uhxxLeah · Sep 11, 2011

My boyfriend said that i need to go on one of those animal hording shows for my geckos....i said its not hording if they are all taken care of and healthy!

Leah

fuzzylogix · Sep 11, 2011

Lori wouldn't even touch a gecko two years ago. Now she talks to them, names them, takes them out to show people at expos, and even does trades with Kelli when i'm not looking, lol. It's something that we enjoy doing together.

Golden Gate Geckos · Sep 13, 2011

I don't feel that our 'significant others' necessarily need to share every interest we have, just recognize and support that it is important to US.

sunshinegeckos · Sep 13, 2011

Golden Gate Geckos said:
I don't feel that our 'significant others' necessarily need to share every interest we have, just recognize and support that it is important to US.

I agree. I know my boyfriend probably could do without my ongoing conversations about my geckos (even though he owns some too) but he is supportive of the fact that I love them. He also is going to be housing a good number of my geckos at his house until I move. I am sorry your girlfriend is not supportive. Maybe show some extra interest in one of her interests and maybe she will get the hint.

GeckoStud · Sep 28, 2011

Luckily my awesome wife shares my passion for geckos. She says I corrupted her haha, and now I think she may love them even more than I do haha. I guess I'm one of the lucky few.

DierdreDreamwalker626 · Sep 28, 2011

Luckily my husband and I are equally obsessed with our geckos, as well as animals in general, so I don't have this problem. I don't think that she has to be excited everytime you get something new, just so long as you know that she supports you and is happy that you're happy. Even if she's less than enthusiastic about it. (lol)

M_surinamensis · Sep 29, 2011

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artes · Nov 10, 2011

I think smacking your boyfriend in the back of the head, Gibbs style, would be a wonderful idea. I do not understand the mindset of getting animals, not taking care of them, and then whining about what they need for their care. Or you know, sell him on Ebay and pick up a newer model. Whichever. >_>

5HiddenLizards said:
My bf is supportive, which is great, if it weren't for him, I'd just have 3 lizards, but thanks to him we have 7. Three of which are monitors/tegu... :-\ ....which wouldn't be so bad if he hadn't bought them all on impulse & just because he wanted them. My only beef with him is because he takes NO PART in their care whatsoever. I've asked him to feed them the days I work late, but nothing. Not even to change out a water dish!

I just wish that he would at least try to help with them, since 4 of them are technically HIS. But I guess this is just too much to ask of someone who never took proper care of any of their animals, especially someone who had a pack of tick ridden dogs, that were not fixed, who had multiple litters of puppies every year unsupervised, without ANY vet care whatsoever.

And do not get me started on how much he complained about buying everything they needed for proper care....

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5HiddenLizards · Nov 11, 2011

I agree with you, but he's the kind of person who never took his animals, dogs mostly, in for vet care when needed. And some other stuff, that I won't get into.

And he was so immature when I'd tell him, no we don't need them (being the lizards) right now. Threw a fit & said I never let him get what he wants....its like I have 2 two year olds instead of 1.

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Desdemona · Nov 11, 2011

I've decided no more serious relationships without someone who at least has a passing interest in proper animal husbandry! I was on a dwarf hamster kick (Russian variety) with my first and he literally did get jealous of them. He said I spent more time with them than I did with him. Which of course was complete crap since I didn't hold/cuddle them since they were breeders and just ahd their own little colonies/world/etc. We also had a fish tank and he wanted Oscars.. which the tank wasn't really big enough (at least not when they became adults) but bought them, of course I cared for them 100%.

My second ex lied to me about rather or not I could have a pet in the housing we were in at the time! I looked up later rather or not I could have a caged pet while he had his two cats.. and I could. I was pretty annoyed. He didn't care about my lizards either way but he was not to impressed by my roach feeders. I had a couple get loose before I got smart and moved their temp probe.. and he just smushed them. I think one might have been a female

Thankfully there was only a few.

Must love reptiles, tattoos, and my child. Those are my future mate requirements, hehe.

artes · Nov 13, 2011

My husband isn't thrilled that we have a small zoo, but he loves each of the animals. He gets worried when they're sick, finds new toys for them, checks their thermometers more obsessively than I do, and he respects the fact that I love having a zoo this big. I personally think everybody should find a mate that feels that way at the minimum. They don't have to share the hobby of getting them, but they should respect a) you, b) your animal children, and c) your human children.

So, I still vote for that good ol' Gibbs smack.

justindh1 · Nov 14, 2011

My fiance likes the animals I have but isn't as excited to learn everything you possibly can. She knows the names of each but not the morph name or genetics. She doesn't like it all the time when I talk about getting another gecko or buying something else for them. I think that is a good thing as she keeps me in check. In a relationship, you have to take into account what the other would like to do just as much as what you'd like to do. If you can't do that then you're not ready for a commitment like that. There are going to be things you don't agree on and you have to learn to talk through it. Be lucky they put up with what they already are.:main_laugh:

l1bertinee · Nov 14, 2011

Haha, my boyfriend wasn't too interested in geckos before I mentioned I'd wanted one for a while. And then after I got my first one he NEEDED to have his "own", and then he wanted another gecko a month after that. And two months later we have 2 more. We're done for a while until they're all grown up ahha. My room is filled with tanks/feeders. xD Somebody joked and said I was hoarding geckos. But they're all well taken care of and such little fatties, I love them.

I'm glad he's supportive.

scm133 · Nov 14, 2011

I have an obsession for pets. My husband knew more we married, so he is pretty tolerant. He does not share the same obsession. We have an African Grey Parrot, a dachshund, two Oscar Fish in a 125 gallon tank, nine (soon to be 11) leopard geckos, 10 gallon tank of crickets, 2 gallon tank of super worms, Dubias in a 18 gallon tub in the hall closet, and mealworms in our refrigerator. Poor guy!!

UnicornSpirit · Nov 18, 2011

Lol.... looks like it's time to find a new girlfriend who understands the hobby. My ex always supported me but now that I'm single I have this fear that I'm going to meet some great guy and then he will see my reptiles and run away.

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