GRRR

[modestmouse]

Who the heck works freaking seven days a week?! Like seriously? My stupid roofer boyfriend... that's who! Seriously! I am so angry, like what is the point in being in a relationship?! ARGH. SEVEN DAYS A WEEK... not to mention the fact that he comes home after 9PM most nights... Suuuuuuuure he was home at 7:30 last night, but I, not knowing this, went out with my friends... So he throws that in my face.. "Well, I was home at a decent time last night, but you were out with your friends." ARGH BEAR YOU MAKE ME MAD! How the freaking heck was I supposed to know you would be home early... ONE NIGHT OUT OF THIS WEEK?! THE ONE NIGHT I ACTUALLY DECIDED TO GO OUT, FIGURING YOU WOULDN'T BE HOME ANYWAY? How was I to know? Like sure we've been together three years, sure you think the 'fire' is gone... but that's because I feel like I barely know you anymore.... you just don't get 'down' with someone you barely know! Am I wrong to feel this way.. honestly? Like here, I will give you the story...

We've been together three years & now we live together, hoping that would put less strain on things, because in all reality, you'd think because we'd get to see each other more, we'd be happier... but noooo, that just seems to make things worse. Now I find myself wishing I didn't see him at all! I am so mad. Another weekend without my boyfriend... It feels like another weekend of my life wasted... =(

At least I've got Stogey, my gecko... I can watch him.. sleep or something >=(

 

[fallen_angel]

Living together is HARD.. it's nice to be able to see eachother more often, but it can also cause more fighting :main_yes: My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 4 years, and have lived together ever since we first got together (we've just always shared an apartment)..

It's definitely hard living with ANYONE that's not your family though (and family can be a pain in the butt sometimes too).. there's always going to be fighting at some time or another, you just gotta learn how to fight "well" I guess you could call it.. you'll eventually learn the fighting styles of eachother, and can work together to be able to diffuse fights when they arise.. and of course, when the fight has just happened, it takes awhile to cool down. Once you cool down a bit, you'll love your man just as much and can hopefully find a way to work things out.. Best wishes to the both of you!

 

[Halley]

Well look at it from his point of view. Are you having money trouble? Is that why he is working? If he doesn’t work, will you go in debt? Is he trying to plan more for the future?

Those are just the things I assumed when reading that. But the way I think about it, when I’m about to die, I wouldn’t be saying “I really wished I had another day to work” I would much rather spend time with friends and family, and doing things I love.

I don’t know the situation, so I hope I didn’t offend you.

 

[Ccrashca069]

On those nights he came home really late I think he should have called to let you know. I think that is just common curtisy. My wife and I do that. Also this is the time of year when construction work is best. I don't know many people who get new roofs on during the winter when it is raining. So maybe the 2 of you need to take some time and talk and work things out. Plan a date night

 

[Halley]

Plan a date night

That is a good suggestion!

 

[modestmouse]

Thanks everyone! Well, he's been roofing for about 5 years, so money is not really any trouble... He makes $25-$30/hour, & he works through the winter doing other things.. I just want to spend time with him... We had an "ordeal" a few months back when my Mum went crazy & we had to take my brothers in for awhile, & that was when he said "Sybil, we aren't going to get to be young together, we're only gonna have any free time when we get old." Now it feels like he went back on his word & the only time we'll ever have free time together is when we're old... I am just upset that I never get to see the love of my life is all... Thanks for hearing me out.

By the way, Nicholas, you didn't offend me at all thanks for the input! & John, I'd love nothing more than to have a date night, but that just seems out of the question =(.

Thanks to everyone! I appreciate it!

 

[WftRight]

Is the housing market in Canada experiencing the same slump that the market in the U.S.A. is? If so, he's wise to make money while he can. If he blows off a job today in order to do a date night, that customer may call someone else in the future. The experts here are saying that we have more houses than we have people who are financially able to own a house. Some are even suggesting that instead of fixing houses with major roof or other problems, we should just tear them down in order to restore some balance to the market. If people start tearing down those houses, there won't be work for roofers or others with his talents. Maybe you should consider this time as his investing in your future together. While you're missing some fun, building a nest egg now could spare you some huge pains later.

What are you doing for a living? If you are not in school, maybe you could take a night class during the summer. He's likely going to be working until late anyway, and you could use the time to better yourself.

Either way, I wish you well.

 

[The NY Gecko]

Construction is always iffy, especially new construction. Like the aforementioned posts state, housing is in a slump. I work for my cousin periodically as an electrician, he does strictly new housing. This year has been pretty hard on him. Yeah he might be doing well now but who knows in a couple years? Just something to think about.

 

[moosassah]

Construction s*cks. It's hard work. It's unreliable work--even when it's reliable, the paychecks don't always flow like they should.

Date night doesn't have to leave the home ya know. Simple things like making a nice dinner, a back rub, curling up to watch a movie, playing a game can all lead to remembering how to be a couple. Jump out of bed early to spend a couple of minutes with him before he runs out the door. Have a cup of coffee together or whatever. One final tip...shut the tv off.

I hope you guys can find a little you time.