I really need help.

[stephanieluffsu]

First I would like to say that this post has absolutley nothing to do with leopard geckos. I just don't know where else to get help from.. and since a majority of the people on here are adults... I need help... This is a long and complicated story.. Mod's feel free to delete this if it's innaproriate.. i just don't know where else to go...
Well here it goes:
I have a bestfriend named Trevor. He is amazing and he helps me through everything. (no this is not a lovey-dovey thing. this is a life or death thing..)
Well lately(the last few months) he has been saying that he wants to kill himself. He has a history of self harm, and his father tried to kill himself with a cut up the arm..
Anyway.. Lately its been really really bad. today was terrible. we were fighting and he told me that he should just kill himself so that he doesn't stress me out so much.. and i asked him why he would say that and he said because it would make him happy...
Well i told him that i was thinking about going to the guidence counseler tomorrow at school (were 15) to get him help and he started begging me not to go, and that it wouldn't help and that it would only make things worse and speed things up..
I feel like such a bad friend, because he trusted me with what he was feeling and thinking, and i might throw it away by telling the office.. i want to get him help i really do.. but i don't want to betray him.. so to all of you level headed people out there, what do you think I should do??
Like i said feel free to delete this, i honestly just have nowhere else to turn at this point..
Please help me.. Please..
-stephanie

 

[tlbowling]

I would take his suicidal threats seriously and call a suicide hotline. He might be angry at you at first, but when he is thinking level headed again, and is alive, you'll prove that you truely care and are a true friend.

 

[stephanieluffsu]

that what everyone(people that know him well) are saying... i think i'm going to do it.. i just don't know how..

 

[WulfSC]

You can call: 1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-273-TALK
1-800-784-2433 1-800-273-8255

Also, I see where you're in Ohio. You can go to the Ohio Suicide & Crisis Hotline at:

http://suicidehotlines.com/ohio.html

If there's a history of suicide with him, as well as with his family, take his treat as truth. Feelings of rejection, burden, hopelessness, etc. are a lot for a person to deal with. When you feel that way, suicide can seem to be the only way out. When you have thoughts like that in your head, you don't have much room for any other thoughts. He might be angry with you now, but once he gets help, he'll be thankful that you were there for him. If not, you can feel better that you helped save his life.

Best of luck.

 

[stephanieluffsu]

Thanks.. I'm going tomorrow to tell the guidance counselor.

 

[WulfSC]

In all honestly... I wouldn't wait. Also, have you told your parents? Maybe they can help. I'd try to get him help now... every second counts when it comes to someone contemplating suicide.

 

[Tony C]

In all honestly... I wouldn't wait. Also, have you told your parents? Maybe they can help. I'd try to get him help now... every second counts when it comes to someone contemplating suicide.

I agree with this, don't wait and get your parents and his involved. A pissed off friend is better than a dead friend and he will probably thank you one day.

 

[tlbowling]

In all honestly... I wouldn't wait. Also, have you told your parents? Maybe they can help. I'd try to get him help now... every second counts when it comes to someone contemplating suicide.

My thoughts exactly! Id call the suicide hotline now!

 

[stephanieluffsu]

He's been contemplating for a while now.. I don't think he'd do anything right now. he shares a room with his little sister. I know he wouldn't scar her like that. I hoping so anyway

 

[smsararas2]

If he has told you that he is going to kill himself then that to me is his way of asking you for help. If he didn't want help he wouldn't have said anything. Take it as a cry for help!!

 

[WulfSC]

I don't tell many people this...but, in this situation I'll go ahead and say it. I was diagnosed at the age of 13 with Manic Depression. I tried to commit suicide twice when I was in my early teens. I'm so glad I didn't succeed with the second attempt. I've lived a full and happy life once I got the help that I needed. However, it took an intervention for me to get to that point. If it wasn't for my sister, I probably wouldn't be here. She and I, to this day, maintain a very close relationship. If she wasn't my sister, she'd probably still be my best friend.

So, with that, please... DO NOT WAIT! Even if your parents are sleeping... go wake one of them up (which ever one listens the best) and tell them that something's bothering you, and let them know. Believe me... they'll listen.

Again... best of luck.

 

[stephanieluffsu]

I don't tell many people this...but, in this situation I'll go ahead and say it. I was diagnosed at the age of 13 with Manic Depression. I tried to commit suicide twice when I was in my early teens. I'm so glad I didn't succeed with the second attempt. I've lived a full and happy life once I got the help that I needed. However, it took an intervention for me to get to that point. If it wasn't for my sister, I probably wouldn't be here. She and I, to this day, maintain a very close relationship. If she wasn't my sister, she'd probably still be my best friend.

So, with that, please... DO NOT WAIT! Even if your parents are sleeping... go wake one of them up (which ever one listens the best) and tell them that something's bothering you, and let them know. Believe me... they'll listen.

Again... best of luck.

I'm so sorry. I'm glad you got the help you needed. I really am. I hope he gets the same.
I'm happy for you. And i'm proud of you and your sister.

 

[WulfSC]

I'm so sorry. I'm glad you got the help you needed. I really am. I hope he gets the same.
I'm happy for you. And i'm proud of you and your sister.

Oh, no, don't be. I didn't tell you that to fell sorry, just to let you know that it's a serious situation. And that your friend needs help as soon as possible. Just remember it doesn't make him a bad person, because he feels the way he does. And, obviously, you don't think that... because you seem genuinely concerned. But, to him, I'm sure he feels that way.

A lot of times, thoughts of suicide are caused by a chemical imbalance. Luckly enough, these conditions can be improved with medication which helps correct the imbalances.

However, I can NOT stress enough the importance of getting help immediately. The sooner the better... for you, and your friend. Because, not only is your friend feeling really down and awful, but so are you because you feel helpless and unsure that you're doing the right thing or not by telling someone. YOU ARE RIGHT in telling someone though... someone that can help him is the best thing for him right now.

And, thank you. I'm glad I got the help I needed as well. Life can be very beautiful, unfortunately, some of us just need the help of medication to see that.

You're a good friend for seeking help for him.

 

[stephanieluffsu]

Oh, no, don't be. I didn't tell you that to fell sorry, just to let you know that it's a serious situation. And that your friend needs help as soon as possible. Just remember it doesn't make him a bad person, because he feels the way he does. And, obviously, you don't think that... because you seem genuinely concerned. But, to him, I'm sure he feels that way.

A lot of times, thoughts of suicide are caused by a chemical imbalance. Luckly enough, these conditions can be improved with medication which helps correct the imbalances.

However, I can NOT stress enough the importance of getting help immediately. The sooner the better... for you, and your friend. Because, not only is your friend feeling really down and awful, but so are you because you feel helpless and unsure that you're doing the right thing or not by telling someone. YOU ARE RIGHT in telling someone though... someone that can help him is the best thing for him right now.

And, thank you. I'm glad I got the help I needed as well. Life can be very beautiful, unfortunately, some of us just need the help of medication to see that.

You're a good friend for seeking help for him.

I know u didn't. But i felt like saying it. lol.
He's getting help tomorrow. I'm not just going to watch anymore. I'm going to make sure he gets better. Hes my best friend. And i can't imagine life without him.
Thanks for your advice its well appreciated.

 

[Joao]

I would advise against telling your guidance counsler. They aren't very much help, and will just call DYFS and cause more harm than good.

Telling parents and seeking some sort of medical attention/Therapy is the best route.

 

[WulfSC]

Stephanie, just checking in to see how your friend is doing? And you, how are you?

 

[stephanieluffsu]

He is fine, i told the office, and he was mad at first, but through the day, he got over it, and he's not mad at me at all.. we are good with each other and he is going to talk to people..

 

[WulfSC]

That's good to hear. I hope he continues to talk with people. He's not alone is he? If so, call him on the phone and talk to him, just keep him busy until he's able to see someone professionally. Again, best of luck.

 

[stephanieluffsu]

He's with his friend tonight, and he lives with his Mom, stepdad and Sister.

 

[WulfSC]

Good to hear.