well.. i have come to the conclusion that spot is female. I have been referring to her.. as him for a while but shes about 4 inches long, and i was told i could most likely sex her. i dont see any traces of the infamous V and it looks liek there may be lil eggies inside of her theres some white spots in her stomach. I hope she lets her first eggs thorugh ok. she has plenty of calcium in her tank to lick at at her leisure and i shake and bake weekly. sorry I been calling her him for so long!