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Leonardo
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Recently I rekindled a dying friendship with my best friend from high school. She announced she was engaged and wanted me to be her bridesmaid. I was ecstatic! I got to know her fiance and approve 100%. So I started helping her with her plans.
My parents were less than thrilled about this rekindled friendship. For some reason they blame my "rebel years" on her. She was my best friend when I got myself in to a lot of trouble (none of it being my friend's fault) Guilty by association I suppose.
Well, my parents aren't going to tell me I can not be in the wedding, and in fact said it was perfectly fine when I announced it and told them the price of the dress I have to buy.
A few days later, however, my mom snapped. She told me off about not having a job, using her money, and being friends with this girl again. (Also, to be noted: I was attending a 4 year university but decided to transfer back to the local 2 year college to save them some money, which I figured was a big sacrifice on my part to help out my parents. I'm trying to focus mostly on school right now so I haven't put much effort into getting a job yet.)
She's not trying to run my life, but she is trying too hard to influence me. I inherited her stubbornness, so of course I'm going to be stuck in my ways now when it comes to the people I choose to be around and the things I do with my life and feel I have sacrificed as much as I can of my life to help them out.
Both my parents are "old fashioned" and strictly believe that if an unmarried male and female live together, then they are automatically having sexual relations (which is an understandable assumption, but just that, an assumption) and, even worse, that since they are supposedly having sex they are not Christians.
I was born and raised to be a Christian and consider myself to be one. But I do not consider myself religious. I do not attend church on a regular basis. Generally 2 or 3 times a month and major holidays. And do not feel that I am any less of a Christian than those that go every possible moment.
A lot of my friends have moved in with their significant others before marriage (and I have considered it myself before), therefor making them and myself, in my parents' eyes, non-Christians, which is just not the case. They have a hard time acknowledging my friendships with these people, and its starting to get to me.
The only thing I know to do is to be as polite as possible, bide my time until I can graduate from this 2 year college and transfer back to the university and not have to worry about the constant disapproval anymore.
My parents were less than thrilled about this rekindled friendship. For some reason they blame my "rebel years" on her. She was my best friend when I got myself in to a lot of trouble (none of it being my friend's fault) Guilty by association I suppose.
Well, my parents aren't going to tell me I can not be in the wedding, and in fact said it was perfectly fine when I announced it and told them the price of the dress I have to buy.
A few days later, however, my mom snapped. She told me off about not having a job, using her money, and being friends with this girl again. (Also, to be noted: I was attending a 4 year university but decided to transfer back to the local 2 year college to save them some money, which I figured was a big sacrifice on my part to help out my parents. I'm trying to focus mostly on school right now so I haven't put much effort into getting a job yet.)
She's not trying to run my life, but she is trying too hard to influence me. I inherited her stubbornness, so of course I'm going to be stuck in my ways now when it comes to the people I choose to be around and the things I do with my life and feel I have sacrificed as much as I can of my life to help them out.
Both my parents are "old fashioned" and strictly believe that if an unmarried male and female live together, then they are automatically having sexual relations (which is an understandable assumption, but just that, an assumption) and, even worse, that since they are supposedly having sex they are not Christians.
I was born and raised to be a Christian and consider myself to be one. But I do not consider myself religious. I do not attend church on a regular basis. Generally 2 or 3 times a month and major holidays. And do not feel that I am any less of a Christian than those that go every possible moment.
A lot of my friends have moved in with their significant others before marriage (and I have considered it myself before), therefor making them and myself, in my parents' eyes, non-Christians, which is just not the case. They have a hard time acknowledging my friendships with these people, and its starting to get to me.
The only thing I know to do is to be as polite as possible, bide my time until I can graduate from this 2 year college and transfer back to the university and not have to worry about the constant disapproval anymore.
