Just venting

[pawsfoot]

Actually now I feel bad for complaining about him because I slept in til 8:30 this morning and that is sleeping in for me. When I woke up he had pancakes made, a load of laundry done and had fed the cats and dogs. Not one animal had pooped or peed in the house while I was sleeping. Both computer and PS2 were off and he said we were gonna spend a day doing nothing but sitting on the couch.

And by the way, as go to school full-time I don't make much money at my job, so I do live off his paycheck.

Eek, now I'm a bad fiance.

 

[BalloonzForU]

Not bad, just human. We all complain about our other halves. Not that they are bad, just get on our nerves sometimes as we get on their's too. My husband has finally got the point were he realizes that I've put my foot down and he better take up the slack or the house is going to be a total mess.

 

[dragonflyreptiles]

Hey, don't feel bad, we all have bad days and need to vent and I think that at times the venting may help us see that things aren't really that bad after all but you have to get things off your chest, its only human!

 

[brandy101010]

Yeah don't feel bad. Just as man are slobs that don't like house work, we women love to B***H and complain. It's our Job!

 

[The NY Gecko]

I like all the stereotypes flying around in this thread, it totally contradicts everything ive ever been taught in my life. Such as stereotyping is bad.

 

[Nastynotch]

I like all the stereotypes flying around in this thread, it totally contradicts everything ive ever been taught in my life. Such as stereotyping is bad.

with the lives most of us have grown, stereotyping of this sort protrays exactly what our families lived like.

my dad worked and my mom cooked/cleaned. its just the way things were.

so ya id have to say thats the way i see a couple. the man works and the woman cleans. (dispite the fact that things have changed now days) alot of women have strong working careers, so that visual of oldschool marriage is changing.

Stereotypinig is bad, and its the cause of many condradictions such as racism, war, and hate. But its something that seems natural.

 

[pawsfoot]

I didn't post this thread to stereotype or to cause a problem. So far I have not seen any harsh sterotyping, mostly what people are feeling on a day-to-day basis. If things can not be handled in a civil manner with everyone valuing their own opinions and not bashing others then I would like an admin to close my thread. It seems like everyone just wants to start a fight in the rants and raves section, and that was not my intent.

 

[Nastynotch]

I didn't post this thread to stereotype or to cause a problem. So far I have not seen any harsh sterotyping, mostly what people are feeling on a day-to-day basis. If things can not be handled in a civil manner with everyone valuing their own opinions and not bashing others then I would like an admin to close my thread. It seems like everyone just wants to start a fight in the rants and raves section, and that was not my intent.

but vicky, its fun to fight lol

i dont think any is trying to start anything. were civil as they come :main_evilgrin:

 

[The NY Gecko]

Im being civil, i just like the whole "all men are bums" thing all you girls are saying. makes me feel like relaxing on the couch with a soda while my mom makes me a sandwhich and then gets me some ice cream. :main_evilgrin: :main_evilgrin: :main_evilgrin:

 

[BalloonzForU]

LOL Tom!

Vicky, No one is fighting here.

 

[RaiQuee]

So, question?

Am I the only girl with a "boy wifey"? Ed does laundry, makes me dinner...If i had a long day at work, he cleans my cages for me instead of making me do it. Even tho, he just got home from moving 70 lb rocks. He is clean as ANYTHING.

Something is a little fishie here....

 

[Perefalcon]

Thanks brian it makes me feel so much better to know that even if I tried to find a new one, they would all be as lazy and not helpful.

Can't say that, yesterday I got a call at work from Rob, he started yelling at me.....I left the vaccuum locked in the apartment downstairs and how the heck was he supposed to finish cleaning the house...his mom trained him somewhat, if he left the house a mess when she came home from work she'd give him hell over it, and he's (finally) learned that I'm the same way...although he's been more willing to help now that I'm working full time same as him, before that he thought that since he was the only one working full time that it was my responsibility to do all...except the laundry...I suck at that.

So maybe I got lucky, but he doesn't clean unless it's his day off (monday and tuesday) or he's up real late with the neighbor downstairs and they trash everything...they learned after I came out of the bedroom (still asleep, I sleepwalk) and screamed my head off aparently that they thrashed the house. LMFAO!!!!!!!!!:main_laugh: :main_laugh:

Its just the old saying, all the good ones are married taken.

Here I always thought the saying was; all the good ones are taken or have boyfriends....oh wait no, that's just my saying...almost all the awesome guys I have ever met have been married or aren't interested in females. *sigh*

 

[gaparicio]

I think it's all about compatibility in a relationship. How much can a person bend but not break? I've been married 9 years now with no ill effects. I have a 9-5 job while my wife has a part time 5pm-9pm job. She takes care of the kids during the day while I take care of them in the evening. I changed my son's diapers all the time, potty trained, bathed, and fed them. I do cook dinner about twice a week. I clean every now and again in terms of vaccuuming and dishes. The only thing I don't really do is laundry. She just does it cause she wants to.

We as men need to look at the big picture and realize that there's more to it than just being a lump on a log and being satisfied with who we are. I say this because the men in my family are the same way and are content to be that way. (my dad and uncles).

I believe a man isn't a man unless;
1. He knows his way around a kitchen (doesn't mean opening up a can)
and 2. "He spends time with his family." Marlon Brando.

 

[pawsfoot]

Jeremy has a job which requires traveling with the Nascar circuit so he is gone almost a week sometimes and then he is home for a week. Or depending on where races are he is gone for a weekend and then home during the week. So I do everything day in and day out while he is gone and then when he is home he trys to help. Sometimes he gets in the way more than he helps. Like he thinks all the laundry can be thrown in the washer in a big pile, no sorting is done. So everything white comes out pink or really delicate clothes get torn up. Those are the times when I wish he wouldn't help. He is good at cooking, he just never feels like doing it. He does clean because I do not. I rarely cleaned when I lived at home and I just do not heave that skill. I do however need to buy a new vaccuum because the dog freaked out and ate the hose to the one we have now. I wish he had a 9-5 job so he could help out and be home everynight, but hey I can't choose his profession and I certainly wouldn't want him to choose mine (he would make me be some mechanic or something...eeek).:builder2:

 

[Nastynotch]

:main_lipsrsealed: you guys make me look forward to marriage :main_no:

 

[The NY Gecko]

:main_lipsrsealed: you guys make me look forward to marriage :main_no:

We had a discussion in english class yesterday about marriage. My english teacher turned to me "Tom, what is marriage?" "A piece of paper where you sign your life away."

 

[pawsfoot]

Then Tom I suggest that you should not bother dating if you believe that marriage is so bad. Most girls look forward to getting married and serious relationships tend to lead to marriage. So I finally solved all those girl problems you were having.

 

[brandy101010]

Im being civil, i just like the whole "all men are bums" thing all you girls are saying. makes me feel like relaxing on the couch with a soda while my mom makes me a sandwhich and then gets me some ice cream. :main_evilgrin: :main_evilgrin: :main_evilgrin:

LMAO!

All of the stereotype comments I have made are nothing more then jokes.
I hate stereotypes And would never seriously label anyone because of there gender. I am a house wife and my husband works hard for a living so I am living a stereotype but then again my husband does cook once in a while and he is a great cook! and I also help him with things you would not normally see a petite 5 foot one female doing. lol

 

[BalloonzForU]

We had a discussion in english class yesterday about marriage. My english teacher turned to me "Tom, what is marriage?" "A piece of paper where you sign your life away."

Unfortunately many people feel that way and is one of the reason why there is such a high divorce rate.

I believe that a marriage lic is only a piece of paper, it's the love between two people that makes it a marriage. That is one of the reasons I'm not legally married to the man I've called my husband for almost 13 years. The piece of paper is nothing! He's my husband in my eyes, his eyes, our son's eyes, and in Gods, that's all that really matters too me.

 

[The NY Gecko]

Then Tom I suggest that you should not bother dating if you believe that marriage is so bad. Most girls look forward to getting married and serious relationships tend to lead to marriage. So I finally solved all those girl problems you were having.

Vicky, your taking everything ive said thus far with wayyyy too much seriousness. I'm kidding.