Little embarrassing... any opinions?

[GeckoStud]

I found this girl I really like and I want to ask her to a dance coming up. I drew a pair of lovebirds nestling each other on a branch and wrote a poem to go with it. I don't know if it is corny or not if you guys have any ideas let me know... I feel a little silly asking this but I really want this to hit deep, I like her alot . (The second line bothers me a little...)

I know it is soon and you don’t know me well.
But If you’d go to the dance with me it would be swell.
I really like you and would like to know more,
About this beautiful stranger of whom I adore.
I want to show you I am a great guy,
And to prove you’re more than a flare in my eye.
Hopefully this date will grow into love.
Pray do think about it, fair gentle dove…

 

[o0 Ryan 0o]

I'll have some comments for you, depending on the answer to this question. Do you know her? How well, little, or not at all? I know you said stranger, so I'm thinking probably little to none.

Talk to you soon.

 

[Perefalcon]

oooooooooooooohhhhh that's so sweet! Just make sure you don't scare her off. Hide it in her locker or something and watch to see how she reacts

 

[GeckoStud]

Yeah we talk from time to time in the halls and she is good friends with some of my other friends. I know her but would like to personally get to know her better than just "Hi here are the comics you wanted, nice talking to you again see you later..."

 

[brandy101010]

yeah if she is someone you have actually talked to before I think it is a very sweet way of asking her out. but if she is really a "stranger" it might seem a little creepy.

 

[GeckoStud]

oooooooooooooohhhhh that's so sweet! Just make sure you don't scare her off. Hide it in her locker or something and watch to see how she reacts

Thats a pretty good idea but I have a better one, I may have mentioned we exchange comic books (yes we are manga nerds...:main_rolleyes: ) I'll put it in there maybe...

 

[Perefalcon]

I like that idea even better!

I'd suggest that!

 

[o0 Ryan 0o]

Well to be honest, it's a lot for someone to have sink in all at once. As nice as the gesture is, I think i would stick to talking more with her first. This is sort of a blindside, and it may be overwhelming, especially the second to last line. It's nice, but it's hoping/implying a lot right away.

I remember back in my senior year of highschool, I got a letter from a girl basically pronouncing her love for me. She told me how much she liked me and wanted to be with me and go to the prom with me. Your poem isn't anything like that, but it's definitely overwhelming. I barely knew this girl, and only talked to her here and there like you. I didn't know what to say, it's flattering, but you should try to get to know someone before sending something like this on them.

When is the dance? Do you think you could find some time to squeeze in some more chatting, and maybe work in a few dates before hand?

Also FYI, the letter I got wasn't from Val

 

[GeckoStud]

Hahaha I suppose you are right Ryan. It is true we just really talk to each other in the halls and exchange comics when we have them. Truth is on top of all this one of her friends (my friend) is trying to "match" us up, silly as it sounds. I will try to squeeze in some more face time. The dance is next saturday but its a casual dress little thing in our cafeteria for like 5 bucks. I thought maybe we could go there together and get to know each other some more. Better than dropping hundreds of dollars for an awkward prom, especially for her considering she is a senior. I think I will still give her the the drawing, but maybe minus the imposing poem. Thanks guys, if anyone else has any opinions let me know...

 

[o0 Ryan 0o]

Friends are your best bet for "matchmaking." That's how I met Val! But yeah, talk with your friends and try to get something set up. I agree that the dance would be a great way to get to know her. I hope everything works out for you. I'll have my fingers crossed. Keep us posted.

 

[GeckoStud]

Will do thanks for your help guys.

 

[jmkbama]

I would agree with Ryan. Save the more romantic grand gestures until after you are in a relationship with her. If you have a mutual friend who is already trying to match you up, set something up where the three of you hang out together outside of school, so you can both get to know each other a little better then if that goes well ask her on a date or even to the dance.

However, in my opinion, the poem at this point will scare her more than for her to think it is sweet. That is just my opinion, but I think just asking her out directly would work much better. Women tend to like the confidence more than the shyness show of being overly romantic until you are actually in the relationship.

They may say otherwise, but just think about the guys in your school who tend to be the most popular with the women. Do you see them sneaking poems in lockers, comics, etc? I was one of those popular jock types back in school, for whatever it is worth. My wife agrees with me as well from a female's point of view. I did some pretty over the top romantic gestures with her, but not until after we had dated seriously for over a year.

Good luck.

 

[gaparicio]

If I was in your situation, I would just simply be upfront and ask her out. Not necessarily on a romantic date or anything but like to lunch or one of your hangout places. There is a huge difference between knowing a person from the outside than the inside. Hang out with her and find out what she likes besides comics. It takes time man but you'll be alright.:main_thumbsup:

 

[GeckoStud]

Again thanks guys, I know the poem was ... well stupid, but I will try to get to know her better, I will keep you guys posted.

 

[gaparicio]

Hey man, your poem wasn't stupid. It's always commendable when a guy takes time out of his day to put his feelings in ink about a girl. I've done it as well. As a matter of fact, I don't think there are too many of us around anymore.

 

[brandy101010]

I don't think the poem is stupid at all. maybe if she ends up being your girlfriend
you can give it to her in a month or so and tell her you were thinking of giving it to her before you were going out but changed your mind and saved it. I think that would be sweet.

 

[GeckoStud]

Yeah I guess, I did not mean it itself was stupid, just the idea of giving it to her now.

 

[jmkbama]

I also don't think the poem is stupid. Things like that will come in very handy after you are in a relationship with her or someone else. I have done some things like that myself for my wife, but again after we had been dating for over a year. Like once I sent her a message in a bottle (from this company I found on the web) with a poem in it. Once I even bought a small aquarium and a bunch of feeder fish and put them outside the door of her apartment with a note that said "of all the fish in the sea, you are the only one for me."

Again, it isn't stupid, just be more direct for now but keep the romantic ideas for the future.

 

[Double LY]

I also don't think the poem is stupid. Things like that will come in very handy after you are in a relationship with her or someone else. I have done some things like that myself for my wife, but again after we had been dating for over a year. Like once I sent her a message in a bottle (from this company I found on the web) with a poem in it. Once I even bought a small aquarium and a bunch of feeder fish and put them outside the door of her apartment with a note that said "of all the fish in the sea, you are the only one for me."

Again, it isn't stupid, just be more direct for now but keep the romantic ideas for the future.

I was TOTALLY going to suggest if he wanted to do something a little "corny" to maybe give her a little goldfish or betta with a note that said something about of all the fish in the sea/please go to the dance with me (but with more flair ). Great minds:main_thumbsup:

 

[BalloonzForU]

Derek the poem was sweet, just a little too deep too early.

It's awakward when you are attracted to someone and are unsure of their feelings. Get to know her, and let her get to know you. If it's going to happen it's best to just let it do so and not try to force it. You'll do fine, just go with the flow.