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SwimMom
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Deb,
I wish I would have seen this earlier and I hope things are getting easier for you and your daughter. I lost my Mom in January of this year and my Dad 7 weeks later. It was very hard on me but even harder on my 16 yr old daughter who had been their primary care giver on the weekends since age 12. She even resorted to cutting herself to ease her pain. She has been seeing a grief specialist for a while now and is doing much better. She has a tape of my dads voice that she listens to that comforts her. I myself am unable to listen to this yet. SHe likes to look at pictures and remeber the good times. I can't look at pictures without breaking down. My point is everyone deals with loss in their own way and just because you might not be able to do the things that may help your daughter don't let her feel bad for doing those things. My son is only 9 and he doesn't seem affected by it much he was not there when Dad passed away which was awful to watch my daughter was. He sometimes says he misses grandma and grandpa but thats about the extent of his emotions. With the holidays coming it is going to be sad for all that have recently lost someone. I have a plan to bring my parents to our holiday gatherings. We have rememberance candles of both of them and they will be lit and in the center of my table for all holiday meals. Hope some of this helped. You might not know it but it has helped me to talk about so thank you and I hope I helped you too.
I wish I would have seen this earlier and I hope things are getting easier for you and your daughter. I lost my Mom in January of this year and my Dad 7 weeks later. It was very hard on me but even harder on my 16 yr old daughter who had been their primary care giver on the weekends since age 12. She even resorted to cutting herself to ease her pain. She has been seeing a grief specialist for a while now and is doing much better. She has a tape of my dads voice that she listens to that comforts her. I myself am unable to listen to this yet. SHe likes to look at pictures and remeber the good times. I can't look at pictures without breaking down. My point is everyone deals with loss in their own way and just because you might not be able to do the things that may help your daughter don't let her feel bad for doing those things. My son is only 9 and he doesn't seem affected by it much he was not there when Dad passed away which was awful to watch my daughter was. He sometimes says he misses grandma and grandpa but thats about the extent of his emotions. With the holidays coming it is going to be sad for all that have recently lost someone. I have a plan to bring my parents to our holiday gatherings. We have rememberance candles of both of them and they will be lit and in the center of my table for all holiday meals. Hope some of this helped. You might not know it but it has helped me to talk about so thank you and I hope I helped you too.
