techgirl
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Next week I will be flying out to Arizona to see my family. My father will be undergoing a 2 part brain surgery. He has Parkingson's and has been starting to get worse. They have decided to do the surgery where electrodes will be implanted and then a catheter will be threaded through to the chest. I will be out for the first part not the second. My main concerns is that the area of the brain they will be working with involves emotion and personality. How weird is it to hear that your dad may not be your dad after this?
I was never truly close to my family until the last 3 years. That was mainly due to my daughter I believe. When my parents heard that I had decided to have a baby before marriage, they were furious and my father had even demanded that I have an abortion. They kept telling me that Dean, my bf, was going to dump me and that they were going to wind up taking care of me. Needless to say that I told them that if this is how they truly felt, they would never hear from me again. The only one who supported me was my brother. If it wasn't for him and his wife and their words of support and good spirits, I may have had a nervous breakdown. It wasn't until I had a threat of miscarriage that everything changed. Now we talk once a week and have made a point to visit them once a year with our daughter. My folks love her and Dean and can't wait for me to send pics of them.
I will be flying out alone to Arizona and just have all the typical fears of what comes with family members having surgery. I'm also scared of leaving Dean with Bernadette and the whole house in his control for 10 whole days. That should be interesting to come back to.
I just really needed to vent. I haven't really been able to talk about this without crying because I am scared of what may come and just that my dad is getting worse. It just makes his mortality all that more real. Just keep your fingers crossed for him.
I was never truly close to my family until the last 3 years. That was mainly due to my daughter I believe. When my parents heard that I had decided to have a baby before marriage, they were furious and my father had even demanded that I have an abortion. They kept telling me that Dean, my bf, was going to dump me and that they were going to wind up taking care of me. Needless to say that I told them that if this is how they truly felt, they would never hear from me again. The only one who supported me was my brother. If it wasn't for him and his wife and their words of support and good spirits, I may have had a nervous breakdown. It wasn't until I had a threat of miscarriage that everything changed. Now we talk once a week and have made a point to visit them once a year with our daughter. My folks love her and Dean and can't wait for me to send pics of them.
I will be flying out alone to Arizona and just have all the typical fears of what comes with family members having surgery. I'm also scared of leaving Dean with Bernadette and the whole house in his control for 10 whole days. That should be interesting to come back to.
I just really needed to vent. I haven't really been able to talk about this without crying because I am scared of what may come and just that my dad is getting worse. It just makes his mortality all that more real. Just keep your fingers crossed for him.
