Biological Father

[2bacop]

Ok.....so I'm kinda embarresed about this situation because I am going to be a future cop yet I am scared, but I guess when I am a cop I will have a gun.

So a little background, I was adopted by my step-dad who passed away a few months ago from lung cancer. I still talk with my biological grandparents but not my biological dad, because he is a drug addict and a very dangerous man. Well he found me through myspace, of all things. He sent me a message begging me to let him in my life. I sent him a message back asking him not to contact me. Well he didnt listen and kept contacting me through myspace, so today I deleted my account. The part I am worried about is the fact that I thought only friends could see my myspace but apparently not. He now knows where I work, go to school, and the town I live in (the population of my town is like a 1,000). He lives in Washington state but I wouldnt put it past him if he came here.

I asked my teacher (the chief of police) if there was anything I could do and theres not. Unless he threatens me or my family I cant do a thing. What I am worried about most is my little sister who is 12. She was only a few months old when my mom left him and hasent seen or spoken to him. I am worried that he will try and kidnap her when she gets off the bus, even though the bus stops at the end of our very short driveway, sometimes it takes her awhile to get to the door and unlock it. My dad was the one who protected us for him and now there is no man around here to do that. The only resort we have is my dads best friend from high school who lives about 3 hours from us, but he will take it a little too far if you know what I mean, and I cant allow that.

Anyway sorry for the sob story but I had to tell someone, I just dont know what to do anymore!

 

[EchoPet]

Was your MySpace profile set to private or public? If it was private, I don't think the information such as your school and work show up to anyone but your friends. The only thing non-friends can see is that you have a profile, your display picture, location, and age. So hopefully he still doesn't know where you work or go to school. I hope that he leaves you and your family alone. Sorry I don't have any advice. :/

 

[Mel&Keith]

Janna's right. If your profile was set to private anyone can see your profile name, photo, and the quippy line you write for your mood. They can contact you through the email system but cannot comment on your page or see any thing else on it.

Hopefully he doesn't have the funds to travel to you but do what you're trained to do and be aware of your surroundings. I really hope it all works out and I'll be sending positive energy your way!

 

[2bacop]

Thanks everyone, I thought my profile was set to private but it wasnt because he mentioned in one of the letters where i went to school. I am not sure if he has the funds because he did just finish rehab and is living with his mother (who I also haven't talked to) but she is rich so she may pay for it. But your right Mel I am going to just have to be very aware of my surrondings and the minute things escalate to a threat I will be calling up the chief (my teacher) and getting things taken care of.

 

[JordanAng420]

My best advice is to make sure the one you're worried about the most, your little sister, is aware of exactly what is going on...and that she knows what to do if she is threatened, or somebody tries to kidnap her. Make sure SHE'S trained to protect herself, too...people are crazy these days.

 

[2bacop]

My best advice is to make sure the one you're worried about the most, your little sister, is aware of exactly what is going on...and that she knows what to do if she is threatened, or somebody tries to kidnap her. Make sure SHE'S trained to protect herself, too...people are crazy these days.

She does know about him and I have taught her basic self defense so she can at least get to the neighbors house which is only a few feet from ours on both sides. The thing is she doesnt know what he looks like, nor do we have any pictures of him. I remember what he looks like and have tried and described him to her but he looks like a typical guy, with the exception of some tattoos on his upper arm which cant be seen when he is wearing a shirt.

 

[snowgyre]

It might be a good time for your sister to get enrolled in martial arts. I'm a wildlife biologist and spend a lot of time alone in very, very remote locations surrounded by what I would conservatively call southern rednecks. I took up martial arts last year and it's greatly improved my confidence of my own abilities and made me more aware of my surroundings.

There's no way you can get a restraining order on him based on past relations? I understand he hasn't threatened you or anything and that restraining order or not, if he's going to come he's going to come, but at least it would be some legal protection? Your teacher would know, so I guess if there's nothing you can do there's nothing you can do.

I'm sending positive energy your way too, man. Good luck, be careful, and stay safe.

 

[2bacop]

It might be a good time for your sister to get enrolled in martial arts. I'm a wildlife biologist and spend a lot of time alone in very, very remote locations surrounded by what I would conservatively call southern rednecks. I took up martial arts last year and it's greatly improved my confidence of my own abilities and made me more aware of my surroundings.

There's no way you can get a restraining order on him based on past relations? I understand he hasn't threatened you or anything and that restraining order or not, if he's going to come he's going to come, but at least it would be some legal protection? Your teacher would know, so I guess if there's nothing you can do there's nothing you can do.

I'm sending positive energy your way too, man. Good luck, be careful, and stay safe.

Legally he hasnt done anything towards me or my family that has been LIFE threating so there is no way of getting a straining order, and now of days its getting harder to get a restraining order. You have to have a lot of proof on paper.