People you lose respect for

goReptiles

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I knew my cousin was shallow, but I guess I never realized how shallow she really is. She's the type of person who makes everything about her, and if it's not her way then it's not going to happen.

Well, her boyfriend bought her a $7,000 engagement ring. It's a traditional white gold ring with the diamond propped up so that it looks bigger than it is.

She wants a wedding band to match, but doesn't want a traditional band, even though that's the only thing that's going to match.

What I didn't hear, was that she wants her wedding band to be so big and gaudy that when anyone and everyone looks at her the first thing they notice is her hand and just think 'WOW.'

Personally, I don't like the traditional wedding band, and want something recessed. I want something matching and something small. I don't want my bf to be in debt over a ring. Yea, I want something a little different, but dangit it doesn't have to be huge.

By the way, her bf got $9200 tax rebate that went to pay the engagement ring off. How ridiculous is that... But, at least he paid something off with it, as he has a lot of bills that he likes to pay nothing more than minimum on.

Let's just say when they get divorced, because it's inevitable that it will happen, I'm going to laugh when he takes her rings and pawns them. He already told her that she won't be keeping them, even though the women typically keeps her rings in a divorce. He told her he was getting hers back. But, I don't think she really believes him.

She doesn't want the marriage because she loves him and wants to be with him. She wants the marriage because of status and the jewelry. She may love him, but she's nothing but a self-absorbed gold digger, and he may make a good bit of money for his age, but he's in debt too.

No one thinks their marriage will make it. No one that we hang out with likes her. A friend of ours said that if the boyfriend had asked them what they thought about her before it got serious with them, that she wouldn't be hanging around anymore nor would they be dating, much less engaged.

Personally, I don't like her bc of her personality, and I don't like her boyfriend because he's a salesperson, so he says what he thinks you want to hear. For example, I overheard him talking to someone about wanting an old 4runner bc he used to have one and loved it and wants another one. Later that day, I told him about one I saw for sale, and he told me that he wants a new one not anything that old (1995). I was stunned, bc not 3 hours earlier, he said he wanted an older one about 1994-'96 model. He didn't realize I heard him talking earlier in the day.

In a way, they're a perfect couple, but in all reality, it's not going to last. She's self absorbed, and he's an a**
 

Khrysty

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Ugh, that is the absolute worst! I have a cousin like that too. Really all you can do is sit back and watch the things fall apart around them..and hope you're a stronger person than to rub it in and say "I told you so." It's such a shame when people get married just for the sake of being married...and for the rock on their hand.

I have very strong feelings about marriage. It irks me to no end when people get married for any reason other than the fact that they're best friends, wholly in love, and have weighed the options around them. People who marry only for status, for money, for jewelry, because they're having a child, because they don't know what else to do, because it's convenient....they're just doomed to have a failed marriage. Whether they divorce or not.

Ugh.
 

goReptiles

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These two people spend money like they have a tree in the back yard. When one spends money (typically the bf), the other feels he/she needs to spend money too. IE the bf bought several hundred dollars of fancy golf supplies and he's never played golf before; so she felt she needed to go shopping and drove like 2 hours away and 2 hours back and came home with a $30 umbrella from Coach. I have a $5 umbrella from the grocery store that works better than the Coach ones, as this is her second umbrella in less than 2 years. But, anyway...

She needs to grow up, as does he. To some degree they're perfect for each other, but the relationship is doomed, and I will laugh when he takes those rings off her finger because I don't doubt he'll less than 10k on them by the time she's done with him. I mean the engagement ring was 7k, and you're really supposed to spend more on the wedding band than the ring. I'm just going to laugh.

I try to be nice, but dangit... People like that are hard to be nice to.
 

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