why are women so confusing?

[Brian O]

backwards?.....yea and stripers are just trying to pay their way threw college. This is all in jest so lets not form the Brian haters club.

 

[gko reptiles]

I'm starting a "Brian Haters Club" we will be called "PMS goes Wild"...

hehe just kidding

 

[marula]

...i think you need to change your approc...:main_yes:
try to buy for them a really nice mack snow albino stripe gecko...
..nobady will be resist to you!!!:main_thumbsup: :main_laugh: :main_rolleyes:

 

[The NY Gecko]

lol, most of the time when they ask if i have any pets and the word gecko comes out of my mouth, theres only 2 possible reactions. cute, and icky.

 

[brandy101010]

lol, most of the time when they ask if i have any pets and the word gecko comes out of my mouth, theres only 2 possible reactions. cute, and icky.

I have heard girls say icky or something along those lines when I mention my reptiles or snakes. But I'm sure she would fall in love with a leo if she saw one in person. there is noting icky about leos! well unless one poops on her...

 

[Jeanne]

Maybe she doesn't want to go on a date with you, but doesn't want to be mean and just say "No" so she came up with a lame excuse

 

[Golden Gate Geckos]

Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. Simple.

 

[The NY Gecko]

Maybe she doesn't want to go on a date with you, but doesn't want to be mean and just say "No" so she came up with a lame excuse

Actually, smarty, shes the one that told me this out of the blue. Stop making inferences and assuming things, when people assume, it only makes an ass out of you and me.

 

[Jeanne]

Actually, smarty, shes the one that told me this out of the blue. Stop making inferences and assuming things, when people assume, it only makes an ass out of you and me.

I wasn't even trying to assume anything, you are taking my post the wrong way obviously. And I don't appreciate being called an A$$

 

[Grinning Geckos]

You know what Tom ... if you can't take advice from EVERYONE, stop asking questions. Not everyone is going to say what you want to hear. The second someone says something you don't like, you start calling them names and crying that the world is out to get you. Well, it's not...it's just your perception. I, for one, am tired of seeing this sort of abuse from you.

The start of this thread was ok...and I even managed to ignore the bit at the end of your first post. But I can't ignore when you treat people I consider a friend this way. You owe an apology, and you need to think about WHY you do.

 

[Jeanne]

You know what Tom ... if you can't take advice from EVERYONE, stop asking questions. Not everyone is going to say what you want to hear. The second someone says something you don't like, you start calling them names and crying that the world is out to get you. Well, it's not...it's just your perception. I, for one, am tired of seeing this sort of abuse from you.

The start of this thread was ok...and I even managed to ignore the bit at the end of your first post. But I can't ignore when you treat people I consider a friend this way. You owe an apology, and you need to think about WHY you do.

Thanks Shanti. I didn't even mean it in a bad way. Women are funny sometimes and don't say what they mean in order to avoid hurting feelings, so they lie to avoid it.

Thats all I meant by it

 

[Grinning Geckos]

Thanks Shanti. I didn't even mean it in a bad way. Women are funny sometimes and don't say what they mean in order to avoid hurting feelings, so they lie to avoid it.

Thats all I meant by it

I know, and it's so true, I know some girls who've done just that.

Tom, all you had to do was say "Actually, I didn't ask her out, so I don't think that's what happened," and filed that bit of info away for another time when it will apply.

 

[The NY Gecko]

Maybe she doesn't want to go on a date with you, but doesn't want to be mean and just say "No" so she came up with a lame excuse

No, this was condescending. Read it a few times and see how it comes off. Jeanne never has liked me, so whats my first impression going to be when she says something along the lines of this. Not everyones out to get me, but i can think of a few. From my point of view an apology isnt necessary. Shes your friend, so its not going to seem cruel to you. I can accept advice, and up until that point it was all going really swell. I guess i shouldnt have expected anything less though when i make a thread.

 

[gko reptiles]

You may be right. Some people probably say things just to make you angry; I'm not saying that this applies here, but it's true, I'll say some things just to make people a little *ticked*. My notes are always in good fun though, and some people DO get offended, it's just a risk that you have to take if you go out on a limb to say something like that. Anyway, my point is that if you think that someone in particular is "out to get you" just take whatever they say with a grain of salt. Assume that it was meant to hurt you, if that's the way that you really feel, but try to keep names and such to yourself. It's just like we were talking about on chat last night, the problem with text is that you can't tell how the person said** it! You fall victim to this same aspect all the time (like when you're joking and people think you're being serious and then someone is mad at someone else...); so try to keep that in mind too! Either way, whether they said what they said in good fun or to hurt you, we don't need fighting in the forums! (We all love you Tom! You can just get a little out of line sometimes! )

 

[Wretched]

Boys Girls Men Women

The difference between us all is an amalgam of many things. Just lumping them all into one reason is silly as sin. I'm currently engaged, for the second time. Ive had about 10 official girlfriends, 2 fiances and more casual flings than I'm ever gonna admit to a girl I want to keep, at least nit right away. Every girl i met is different. Each has thier own little quirks and each one is equally crazy. The mistake a lot of men make is that they think it is only women who are crazy. Probably because most of us men arent dating other men so we dont realize that we are just as mentaly and emotionaly messed up as any girl there.

Ive met a lot of girls that pull what I call 'crazy woman speak' where they twist things I would say into sometihng bad just because i didnt word it right. Or would lead me on forever and then find somone she likes more. My best advice? Acknowledge her feelings, but do not turn yourself into someone lesser and hang all over her and follow her around like a sick puppy. The second you do that you are less appealing. The only consistant rule ive found in dealing with members of the opposite sex (and this goes for girls too) is 'CONFIDENCE' Even if you aint gotta clue, admit it. Stand up straight and act like you can handle youself. Nobody wants an EMO kid. And trust me, the day i stoped careing what other folks thought of me, the day I decided that I was the shit. Nearly all my girl troubles were over. Dont know if this will help, but ask any girl if what I said is wrong.

Edited for profanity

 

[Golden Gate Geckos]

Let's try to calm down and keep this thread on topic, if that's even possible!

 

[Grinning Geckos]

LOL....I think Gregg got it right. In my experience, men and women aren't all that different. It just seems like we talk 2 different languages and something gets lost in translation every now and then.

More to the point...I couldn't tell you why she said what she did. I don't always understand things that I've said! Why don't you just ask her what she means by that? All we can offer are guesses.

Edit once more... Your perception of Jeanne is just that...your perception. You expect from the beginning for her to be rude, and it's EASY to find exactly what you're looking for even if it's not there. You expect the world to crap on you, and it will. When you find away to change your perception of the world and what people say to you, you'll find it's not as bad as you thought.

Example: My VERY FIRST post on any reptile forum was to tell Gregg I thought he was a jerk (lol...wonder if he remembers that). It was easy to look at what he was posting and think he was being a horse's rear end, and continue to see that in everything he posted afterward. However, I wasn't seeing the full picture, just my first impression. Over time, I saw he's really not a bad guy all the time like I first thought. He's actually quite smart, informative, and a good guy - he just won't tolerate some things. To his credit, he's changed the way he reacts to people. The Gregg we see today is a far cry from the Gregg I had called jerk a few years ago.

Moral of the story - not everyone you think is being (or going to be) rude to you actually is. You're just expecting to see it, so you do. Learn to expect nothing one way or the other, and you'll see most people don't like to be rude and don't actually want all this drama. You have the ability to make good contributions to this site, but your view that people are trying to drag you down constantly mucks it up.

 

[brandy101010]

I agree with ryan. Confidence is the key. Women love a man with confidence. But remember there is a thin line between confidence and conceitedness.

 

[Grinning Geckos]

I agree with ryan. Confidence is the key. Women love a man with confidence. But remember there is a thin line between confidence and conceitedness.

Amen!

 

[The NY Gecko]

Shanti your probably right, i do think everyones out to get me, but then again, if we can all remember, lets think about how i found out about this site...