Do fights between siblings EVER end?

[Stitchex]

I put the crickets in the sink, which my parents let me do, but seems to tick off my brother. I just got out of the shower, he went in there, then came out yelling at me like he's the owner of the house..."MARY, GET THESE CRICKETS OUT OF THE SINK!" I told him I would, I'm just getting something for my mom to sign, but he HAD to have them out RIGHT NOW, a minute or two just would not do for him. So, I just told him to wait, getting a little impatient. He now threatened to put the crickets in my room and dump my calcium. I told him to go away. He proceeded to put an upside down cup of crickets on my computer desk(which got loose) and dumped the rest of the calcium that I have down the drain. I went into his room to do something, probably to take his mattress off of the bed, but he followed me and pushed me out of his room, slamming me into the wall. Furious, I punched him in his gut, he grabbed my arm and threatened to break it. After a few choice words, I twisted my arm away and slammed the door, waiting for him to get in the shower so I could take his bed. I heard some soft scratching noises on my door, so I stuffed a bathrobe under the crack of the door, thinking he was trying to stuff some more cricks in. When I finally heard the shower starting, I opened the door, and lo and behold, he taped the crickets I bought to the door. After pulling them off and now discarding them, I opened his door, expecting his alarm that he sometimes turns on to start bleeping. It didn't, but something was blocking the door. It was his chair, so I just ended up taking his soccer uniform that he HAS to wear on Saturday. I'm still considering spraining his ankle when he gets out of the bathroom.

Seriously, will these fights EVER end?

(sorry, just had to vent on this, it's pretty stupid)

 

[Barbel]

Wow.... That's crazy. I don't know how old y'all are, but whenever one of you moves out, life will get better. At least that is how it was with my sister and I. We used to fight like that, well maybe not that bad. As soon as I moved out, we stopped fighting. We are friends now.
It actually also got better when I started college. I lived at home the first 18 months of college and with me going to school all day and summer and then working at night, we just didn't have time to fight as much.
I don't know what else to say, good luck I guess!

 

[gothra]

Wow.... That's crazy. I don't know how old y'all are, but whenever one of you moves out, life will get better. At least that is how it was with my sister and I. We used to fight like that, well maybe not that bad. As soon as I moved out, we stopped fighting. We are friends now.
It actually also got better when I started college. I lived at home the first 18 months of college and with me going to school all day and summer and then working at night, we just didn't have time to fight as much.
I don't know what else to say, good luck I guess!

True, I REALLY hated my sister when we were still teenagers, but ever since we moved out, and both got married, we are now good friends. Things will straighten out when you get older.

 

[acpart]

That sounds so much like my house with my twin boys (age 15). One day you'll both laugh about this, hopefully before you're going through it with your own kids.

Aliza

 

[Haligren]

Oh my god, that sounds so much like me and my brother, except our fights were nearly constant. (He has bi-polar) So that everything that came out of my mouth was somehow the STUPIDEST thing ever. It didn't help that my dad was the same way. Jeez.

If it's any consolation though, my brother and I are now quite close. He's apologized for all the stupid things he did. Every time I talk to him on the phone (my family lives in Virginia) we get to talking about old times and he always has to apologize. He's done some really mean things to me in the passed. Very painful things that I won't go into here, and it still bothers him. I've since forgiven him though. Our fights began to subside when I was about 16 or 17. Nathan, er, my brother is older and wasn't home very much anyway as he had to work. It seems that separation does make the heart grow fonder. As Bonnie and Barbel said, as you two grow and see less of each other you'll have fewer opportunities and less things to fight about.

Hopefully though, you two will forgive each other and find a good friend in each other as you grow older. As hard as it is to imagine that now, I know.

 

[larry26]

Same here me and my older bro fight all the time. Alot of times ist about really stupid things lol.

 

[Stitchex]

Wow, thank you all, I agree with Larry, it always seems to be over such stupid things, and seeing that he's about the only person I ever will fight with, it's just sad to me sometimes. I guess that we'll grow out of it, although I can't imagine one of us apologizing to each other, we both have a stubborn streak a mile long =(. Thanks again, I still need some tips on how to steal a mattress in 5 minutes with a floor that's carpet, without knocking anything over lol.

 

[Haligren]

I'm sorry. I still had to kinda laugh when I read your brother had taped the crickets to the door. lol

That was so mean, but the thought of them being all over the door just cracks me up.

Okay, though, seriously. If I were you I wouldn't even move the mattress, I'd take his precious uniform, douse it in something really smelly like...vinegar or - if you really want to be mean - get a dog or cat to pee on it, then stuff it under his pillow or covers so that when he gets into bed he'll sit or put his face right in it....

But that's just me.

And no way am I an enabler.

 

[THE WHISPERER]

Maybe your SEB should give you a paintball gun instead.

 

[Stitchex]

LOL Cassandra, his clothes already stink enough without me doing anything to them =X haha.Rick, I'll just start shooting him with my water gun I use for the dogs...although it probably won't be water then:main_evilgrin:! He actually has a paintball gun, I could ambush him with it lol.

 

[acpart]

Here's a novel suggestion: why don't you just kill him with kindness instead of continuing to escalate the situation? It's more fun to think up dirty tricks and if that's the way you want to go, that's OK. If you truly want things to stop, someone has to stop it and it doesn't sound as if it will be him. It's hard at first because when the rules of the game change (no retaliation, ignoring, etc) the other person tests it out by getting even more obnoxious, but if someone is truly invested in stopping the war, patience can win out.

Either way, good luck.

Aliza

 

[Stitchex]

I guess killing him with kindness wouldn't hurt, but it's just the part of him being even MORE obnoxious that hurts lol. Thanks for the suggestion, I guess next time we fight, I can try that out.

 

[jakemyster44]

How old is this calcium dumping, cricket taping brother of yours?! lol...
I'd just dump a few calcium coated crix in his mouth whilew he's sleeping??? lol, jk jk

 

[Stitchex]

He's turning 15 in a week, and I'm 13, although I'm not sure about his mental age :/.

 

[eyelids]

Mary, sometimes you just have to "take the crickets out of the sink" in life... As much as it stinks being bossed around, the whole situation could have been avoided if you moved them when he "asked"... It may seem like you're pleasing him, but he's looking for confrontation... The situation will be extinguished leaving him clueless and you stress free...