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^^ i agree
See I'm a girl and if my boyfriend DEMANDED me to get rid of something of mine because of a fear or just wanting to be a jerk and wasn't even able to compromise I would show him the door after 3years. Sorry I don't like people bossing me around.
If her fear is legit that's okay but that doesn't mean you have to give up what you like. She acts as if she has to hold and caress the gecko each time she walks in your place, I bet half the time she's there she hardly notices the reptiles anyway. Your Tokay isn't like a cat or a dog that wants to jump up on visitors and play its a little lizard in a cage. Even if it's in your house she still doesn't have to deal with it. I know about fears but she's a little to extreme for asking you to get rid of it.
If her fear is legit that's okay but that doesn't mean you have to give up what you like. She acts as if she has to hold and caress the gecko each time she walks in your place, I bet half the time she's there she hardly notices the reptiles anyway. Your Tokay isn't like a cat or a dog that wants to jump up on visitors and play its a little lizard in a cage. Even if it's in your house she still doesn't have to deal with it. I know about fears but she's a little to extreme for asking you to get rid of it.
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She gave you an ultimatum, so you should give HER one.
You don't make her touch, look at, feed, play with, water, clean, or have anything to DO with the tokay. She has NOTHING to do with it, its just there in its tank being a tokay.
So you tell her, either she accepts that fact, and that its not doing anything to her, or youll break up with her.
You don't make her touch, look at, feed, play with, water, clean, or have anything to DO with the tokay. She has NOTHING to do with it, its just there in its tank being a tokay.
So you tell her, either she accepts that fact, and that its not doing anything to her, or youll break up with her.
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tokaygeckoz
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tokays should be repsected too ha just tame it down a bit and she won't care any more...... or leave her but a least start off by saying...listen we need to talk and then end it by saying its not you its the tokay !! hahahaha
I am not crazy about my husbands dog and I HAD a huge fear of my sons snakes but I have animals too so we all had had to come to compromises. My sons snakes are very pretty to look at and they stay secure in their tanks in his room. He takes them out in his room. Part of any relationship is compromise. My husband loves his beagle and as much as Beau gets on my nerves he is part of the family because my hubby loves him and I love my hubby. Your gf should try and atleast see your point. If you keep the tokay in his tank when she is there then she should just try and not look at it or get near it. After 15 years of marriage, you would be surprised on how much you have to compromise in the name of love. I think that most vows say "for better or worse"...if a few reptiles in the house ( including an ugly man-eating tokay)is the worst you have to deal with then be happy. You could have alot worse hobbies or habits!!!!
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I don't understand people who don't like animals, lizards or otherwise. But I tend to agree; try to compromise.
My husband has to put up with me and my love all things fuzzy and scaly every day. We'll probably have a zoo once we move out. XD
My husband has to put up with me and my love all things fuzzy and scaly every day. We'll probably have a zoo once we move out. XD
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At first I thought she lived with you, but good God.
The gecko can't possibly harm her and unless I'm missing something, she probably doesn't even have to look at it, so it sounds like she's just trying to show you who has the upper hand in the relationship...my advice, get your manly bits back before she decides to keep them. And I'm not really trying to be funny.
And I realize that's easier said than done...but if someone I really cared about had a halfway sensible reason for me to get rid of my animals, I'd gladly get rid of all of them and find a new career. However, in your situation, I'd go buy another Tokay and tell her to deal with it or get bent. Politely, of course. :main_evilgrin:
Seriously...take it from someone who's been through it. If she's willing to let a Tokay gecko get in the way of your relationship, it won't stop with geckos...if that's even where it started. Next, she'll be giving you ultimatums about what you eat, what you wear, etc.
Can you maybe tell that I've had a bossy one before? I could tell you stories for three hours, but I sent her packing and was glad I did in the end. Funny how the upper hand can change when you're willing to stand up for yourself. Ms. Bossy was full of all sorts of apologies after I put my foot down...but after a year of that crap, it was too little too late.
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That's scary...lol.
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Lol.
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Coqui
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My GF was not happy that I got my gecko. She's not scared of reptiles, but doesn't see the charm in them. However, she knows that I like them, and was at least willing to let me keep it.
If your GF is unwilling to even compromise over a gecko then perhaps you need to consider if she's the right gal for you. I mean it's not like you're trying to force her to hold the darned thing.
Sorry if this comes off as harsh, but it just seems like a rather unfair ultimatum.
If your GF is unwilling to even compromise over a gecko then perhaps you need to consider if she's the right gal for you. I mean it's not like you're trying to force her to hold the darned thing.
Sorry if this comes off as harsh, but it just seems like a rather unfair ultimatum.
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