You Pervert!

LizMarie

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Someone always seems to happen when I'm on the freaking q44. First a little kid kicks me now a grown man is humping my arm when will it all stop!

I havn't been feeling so great. I dunno if its allergies or a cold but it has me feeling kind of grogy (if thats even a word) plus today was raining and I was soaked from this mist/rain crap that was hovering over Queens all afternoon.

I finally get on the bus heading home and I'm so relieved to finally have a seat to myself. I sit but I can't get all that comfortable for it being a crowded bus. The bus is a few stops away from the bridge the leads to the Bronx when some guy gets on. I really don't pay much attention but I know he stands right next to my seat and holds on because the bus is pretty crowded. So the bus is going and going and going and I notice him getting closer and closer and closer to the point that he's bumping into my every 5 seconds. I start to get uncomfortable so I just give him a look like "can you back off a little?" And I guess he understood and apologized and backed up. Few minutes later he's damn near suffocating I can't even moved since he's pressed up against me. With a little anger in my voice because I'm really annoyed I ask him to please, back up a little bit because I he was making me feel really uncomfortable and I needed my own space that same way he needed his own. This time I didn't get an apology he just backed off. I thought it was over BUT NOOO of course it can't be over. Now he's practically leaning over me with his "hardened manhood" pressed against my shoulder. I swear like he was humping my arm. I got so angry I tried to elbow him but I just hit his leg and told him he was basically nasty and to back the **** off. Of course he didn't and since I'm not into making scenes I just got up and moved to the back and decided to get off on the next stop and take the train by this time we were already in the Bronx so I knew my why around. So I'm standing their waiting for the stop to come up and notice that he has his head turned around like the exorsist just staring at me. Of course I'm totally unconformable because this dude is NOT NORMAL. So I try to play it cool and wait for the VERY last minute to jump off the bus thinking I left him behind.

DID I!? NOOOO!!

I ran across the street and started speed walking trying my best to get to the train or the other bus stop, when someone (the guy runs up next to me) "excuse me do you have the time?". I said NO! you have a phone in your hand why don't you tell me the time? And walk off even faster to run across the street but there was just too much traffic and I didn't have the light. When MR. CREEPY comes up next to me "Sorry to bother you but do you know where the 6train is?" I ignore him and he ask again so I point and tell him (you can tell its the train station because you can see the TRAINS!) and tell him to get lost. He walks away and I run across the street to be followed some more now he dared to ask me "Where I was going and if I could walk him to the train?" I spazzed and told him to get ****'n lost and ran off into the crowd I was ducking in and out of stores until he finally disappeared. Of course I was frantic. Things like that make me really nerves and paranoid that I just wanted to cry and basically ran the rest of the way home and even called my neighbors to wait for me in my building because I was scared to be alone going up the stairs alone in my building. :eek:

This was so uncool and really upset me to the point it brought me to tears but my thing is i don't know how to handle these types of situations and ideas? I start to get really nervous and paranoid that I start to sweat and can't even breathe normally and I start to have a hard time thinking of what I should and shouldn't do. Thankfully it was a very crowded avenue because of all the stores, buses and trains.
 

Tanga

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Hahahaha! "His hardened man-hood". Oh thats too funny....sorry that I'm laughing at your expense, but I can't help it.
This is why I hate public transportation, it seems to bring out all the perverts and weirdos. Last time I was in NYC I caught a man with his cell phone between my legs trying to take quick pictures, I turned around startled and yelled at him "WTF dude!", he ran away and turned a corner, I didn't bother chasing him - who would wanna chase down a pervert anyway?
 

nrich

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two words: pepper spray.

I took a defense course in college that involved the correct usage of it and I always carry some on my key chain. I've never had to use it, but I have threatened to use it when I was in a similar situation to yours. Most people will back off if they see you holding it. If they don't, and you feel like you are in imminent danger: use it.
 

Sunrise Reptile

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I think what you should have done is go into one of the stores. If he follows you in and still won't leave you alone, go to the register and say, "If you don't leave me alone, I'm going to have these people contact the police." What a sicko! You need to get yourself a taser. :main_yes:

Edit: Or pepper spray is another good idea! :D
 

Amber7399

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+1 for taser!!!!... pepper spray is a horriable thing.. that stuff is nasty even just being around it, when someone sprays it. if the wind happens to be blowing, accidently goes off in your purse etc..it gets in your throat. and eyes ugh :no: lol


diddo. GLAD YOUR SAFE!!!. :yes: I hate weirdos!!
 

LizMarie

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Thanks for all the suggestions. I'll see if I can get a small bottle just incase or just to use it as a threat, I'm even considering some self-defense classes because this isn't the first time but its been a LONG time since the last time. I honestly thought he was going to grab me or something thats why I kept walking towards the busy intersection since they seem to have cops on foot from time to time and with the heavy foot traffic I thought he would just go away instead of attracting more attention to himself, but then again I live in a city where you can get killed on a busy intersection and NO ONE SAW A DAMN THING. I'm also happy I go off before my stop because I would have died if he followed me home.
 

Mel&Keith

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That's so scary, I'm really glad you're ok. If something like that ever happens again make sure you make it very clear that the person may not come near you and demand that they stop doing whatever it is they're doing. Typically stalkers take a normal brush off as an invitation so you have to be very clear. You did the right thing going into stores. Like Maurice suggested, ask someone in the store to call the police. Don't ever feel like you're being paranoid, your gut is always right! I've been stalked before and the invasion of privacy can take a while to get over. Keep pepper spray on you (Sabre is a good one) and don't hesitate to call the police.
 

snowgyre

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Martial arts is a wonderful thing. Self defense is also very good. Pepper spray and tasers always have the potential for failure during the wrong moment, but your body will never let you down. Man, I'd love to osoto-gari that guy's ass. It's a really easy throw, and once they're on the ground oh man, the things you can do to them would make you squirm in sadistic delight. ;-)

Glad you're okay though.
 

Yamori

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Glad to hear your ok liz, Id suggest self defense courses or even learn how to box.

It will make you feel more confident and in control in these situations god forbid you should ever encounter a whackjob like that again.
 

leoman777

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yeah i was going to suggest tazer!!!!!! or pepper spray is good as well or maybe a little pistol like a ladies smith in a leg holsteer they are cool lol.... my cousin has one and a leg holster ..... sorry for the FREAK that was ummm hardened manhooding you... good thing ur OK and i would also suggest self defense classes have nev teach you!!!!
 

Mel&Keith

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FYI Possessing a taser in NY is a class A misdemeanor. Using a hand gun in a crowded area is never the best option so self defense classes and pepper spray are the best options in my opinion.
 

Sunrise Reptile

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Mel&Keith said:
FYI Possessing a taser in NY is a class A misdemeanor.

You know, for some strange reason, I was about 93% sure it would be illegal. Then again, only if you get caught or have to use it. :main_evilgrin: But in this case, illegal or not, its self defense. And I'm sure there are few judges out there that would side with a whack-a-doodle like this one. I think this guy probably was dangerous (I wouldn't be surprised, as persistant as he was, that he had a record), and Liz is probably luckier than she realizes. :main_yes:
 

LizMarie

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Thanks ya'll. I'm still a little uneasy but I did some Yoga to relax and had some soup, lol.

Mel thanks for the link I spoke to my mom and she agreed that we should get them since yesturday someone was following her with a little toy asking her to be his "friend."

A similar incident happened a few years ago. I believe I was a sophmore in high school. I went over to my cousins house and it was around 9pm and I was walking home it was like a straight 8-minute walk and I was a block away when I saw to suspicious guys standing next to a burger king. I tried to keep myself calm by telling myself that they were waiting for a ride after work, yea right. I slowed down to make sure I got a good look of their faces and the minute I passed them one started walking right behind me. I decided to pull over to a light pole and act as if I was tying shoe lace but I really wanted him to continue walking but he stopped right behind me. I started to turn my head but I was paying attention to his shadow on the floor and saw his body moving to the opposite direction and I snapped my head back and look at him dead in the eye. He start murmuring something and SPRINTED across the Pathmark parking lot into the store looking for a security guard but surprise, surprise they don't have them over night! Instead I waited by Customer Service while my mom walked over to take me home.

Sometimes these weirdos, wackos, etc. make me want to stay home! What terrifies me most is that these people aren't "normal" and aren't acting with reason or a conscience so no matter what I saw or do to scare them off they won't care and I'll be stuck in a very scary situation :(
 

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I'm so glad you're safe, Liz. I probably would have reacted the exact same way. My heart was racing as I was reading about it. You were very smart to get off before your stop and not go straight home. Mace sounds like a good idea. Unfortunately it's illegal in Canada. :<

The sheer amount of people equaling more weirdos is why I dislike the city. I'm a paranoid person anyway, but I take extra precaution in the city.
 

EchoPet

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Ugh, that's really scary. Glad you're ok! I used to live up north in the suburbs, but I'd take the train into downtown Philly for my volunteer job. My mom always had me carry an umbrella, even if it was sunny out, "just in case". I always thought it was dumb until one day a creepy guy was following me. I turned around, wielded the umbrella, and told him to back off. She never told me what the "just in case" was, but she was right. It worked... but these days I'd opt for mace if I had to do it again. Also, staying in well-populated areas, and even running inside a store is good. I especially second the suggestion that someone made about having a cashier call the police if necessary.
 

LeapinLizards

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Oh geez Liz...just reading that story made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. When I was 17 I had a run in with a group of 3 guys when I was walking home from a party about 5 blocks from my house, but had to walk through a park. I honestly think terrible things would have happened had I not started screaming bloody murder and instantly alerted the whole neighborhood. I was terrified to go outside alone for months afterward. Just be careful...now you've got me worried about you!
 
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