Acceptable age gap--A question of ethics, random & not related to herps

[metaldad904]

I think it was more asking an opinion to see what the majority response would be. Sometimes it's nice to see how other people will react to something in order to be prepared for when you do make your decision, whether what they say will influence your decision or not.

EXACTLY! I haven't decided whether to pursue it or not, i've always been on the fence in regards to this type of stuff so i wanted to see what others felt.

 

[metaldad904]

The real question is does she like reptiles?

Take her out & you'll figure out if that 6 year gap is too much or not. I have a friend who dates an 18 yr old. He's in his 30s. She's too young mentally for the rest of us, but they're in love, so we bust him & respect the relationship.

Lmao actually yes, that's "one" of the things that made me give things a second look lol.

Hahaha, my friends are all pretty much like "do what u gotta do, dude.....we'll mess w/u later regardless" lol

 

[metaldad904]

How would your parents, take it? How would THEIR parents take it? Haha.

My parents made a pretty big deal about my dating someone who was 19 at the age of 17.. Now I'm 18 and he's almost 20.. Thankfully both of our parents have gotten over it. :x

Hahaha, mine......i dunno, my family is weird lol. her's hell if i know...probly not great lol.

lol well that's good....that seems to happen (guy who married his pregnant 17 yr old g/f when he turned 18) lol

 

[metaldad904]

I think if you're really thinking this over, and it's obvious you are because of this post, then you're a stand-up guy and I'd say it's OK. The only suggestion I would have is, if she doesn't seem ready for a relationship, then cut your losses and walk away. Otherwise, there's no telling what you'll get yourself into.

Y thank u

I'd agree w/u regarding how to deal w/it....if i do go for it i'll tread lightly. It's just one of those situations that threw me off...

 

[LizMarie]

I believe that if your legal and she's legal it shouldn't be a problem. I've always dated guys older then me and it hasn't been a problem. I have a problem now that I date someone that's 3months younger then me (they are so clingy and annoying! lol)

What you should be focusing on is if you two click, ya know what I mean!?

If you were pushing a walker and she was excited about her up and coming high school prom then it would be a problem!!!

 

[metaldad904]

When me and my last girlfreind got together she was 18 and I was 25. I had no problem dating her because of her age because she was more mature than most of the girls I was dating before her. that relationship lasted 10 years. I'd have to say what really matters in this situation is how you two get along with each other, and each others families. Does your kid(s) like her, and hers (if any) like you. Which should be the case in any relationship Regardless of age. :main_thumbsup:

P.S. I just called my buddy Hugh and he doesn't seem to think any age gap is inapropriate. LOL :main_laugh:

A lot of that has yet to be determined, but soon enuff possibly.....and a lot will depend on that. The kid thing is huge for me, and she doesn't have any so we'll see how that works out. Family isn't big for me (me and my family aren't exactly the greatest mix).

LMAO that killed me. My work buddy said almost the same exact thing earlier lol.

 

[THE WHISPERER]

If you were pushing a walker and she was excited about her up and coming high school prom then it would be a problem!!!

that part also made me think of Hugh. I mean what is he, like 120 by now?

 

[paintedlizards]

my take on this is i wouldnt do it- she's legal to sleep with but thats the extent. Do you go to bars ect?

I threw the 'age' rule out the window at 20 ( 20 + can date any age over 20) but I dont think i personally could date someone younger now. ( im 24)

 

[paulnj]

If you are happy and compatable. age isn't a factor once both parties are over 18 if you ask me.

my grandparents wee 17 years apart in age and they lived happily ever after until death.

 

[kyahbean]

I couldn't have sum'd up exactly what i was thinking any better. I just remember how i was at that age and how i am now and i can't even being 2 understood who the hell that was. I just almost feel like i would be taking advantage of one of those ages people go thru where they're just finding themselves. Maybe i'm growing up, just makes me feel bad dirty in a way.

If you feel "dirty" about it, or you have to justify it to yourself, then it might not be a good idea. Go with your gut.

 

[Jayyoung]

The real question is does she like reptiles? /QUOTE]

IMO
that is the true question here. :main_laugh:

all joking aside

Maturity is a big part of it.

 

[Foreverandever]

I don't see any problem with it. You're both adults. The question is...is she mature enough to be in a relationship with someone of your advanced age? I dont know about you but I wouldnt want to be changing some grandpas diapers at 19

 

[WiseReptiles]

Jeff is 33 and I am 22 and we get along great. We have a great life together and would'nt change it for anything in the world. He was a little iffy dating when we first met but now don't even think about the age difference between us 2. It's not about the age difference(as long as it's over 18 or whatever the legal age is) as long as there is a connection between the 2 of you!

 

[KelliH]

I don't see it as a problem, but I guess it really depends on the maturity level of the person. BTW my husband is 13 years older than me and our relationship is great.

 

[theclean1]

LOL MY DAD IS 32 AND MY MOM IS 48!

 

[ariana]

honey.
age is a number.
if it feels right go for it.
im 15 and ive dated guys a lot older than me...
just go for it!

 

[jtsanti]

My first thought was, eww.
It was then that I realized when I got married I was 19 and my hubby was 24. LOL.
I definitely think it depends on the person. I wasn't a typical 19 year old.
Just as long as you are attracted to her personality and have things in common.
I don't think it could hurt to go on a date.

 

[metaldad904]

My first thought was, eww.
It was then that I realized when I got married I was 19 and my hubby was 24. LOL.
I definitely think it depends on the person. I wasn't a typical 19 year old.
Just as long as you are attracted to her personality and have things in common.
I don't think it could hurt to go on a date.

It couldn't hurt, it's not a huge age gap....just kinda threw me off at first.

I don't see any problem with it. You're both adults. The question is...is she mature enough to be in a relationship with someone of your advanced age? I dont know about you but I wouldnt want to be changing some grandpas diapers at 19

LMAO hahaha, my advanced age. Her maturity has yet to be seen, but we'll see. I'm conceded to going out with her this upcoming weekend.....so we'll see what happens. If i vanish you know what happened, i'm raped & beaten somewhere in a ditch.....so send a search party lol.

Sorry it took me forever to reply to my own post lol, been a busy week.

 

[kyahbean]

Haha! Well, now I'm curious about it, so let us know what happens!

 

[metaldad904]

Haha! Well, now I'm curious about it, so let us know what happens!

Haha, will do! I may very well be telling u that from some sort of crisis-counselling center....this chick is aggressive lol. Don't ask me how i attract this sort, i swear i don't seek it out haha.