A little disappointed...

panthergecko

New Member
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Brooklyn
lol i remember being told to hold off breeding and i did choose to hold off breeding just as i was advised and am glad; now i just feel caring only for my geckos and not try breeding until i can take care of them. i will slowly expand my collection until i have more geckos. then i might breed after of course reading more and newer information as time passes.
 

PhoenixCoconut

Phoenix Gecko :)
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Texas
I haven't gotten crushed by Seamus yet either, I'm sure I will one of these days, but I appreciate what he does. Sometimes it comes off very rude! But thank you Seamus for telling us what is wrong and right. I continue to learn every day and will probably ask a stupid question that google doesn't answer.(Google is not as good as here but I just don't want to be slammed lol) So newbs to this forum, BEWARE OF SEAMUS! I appreciate him now, but I did not used to.

THANK YOU SEAMUS!!!!!!!!!!
 

Golden Gate Geckos

Mean Old Gecko Lady
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Well, I've had my head (and other body parts) ripped off by Seamus... and I survived! I have also done my share of ripping on a few people as well. This is a community, and even if the relationships are online without the physical interaction, it's still a relationship in it's own unique way. ANY relationship has it's ups and downs, good times and not-so-good, disagreements and arguments, as well as encouragement and sharing. For me, the most important aspect of a relationship is respect and trust. There are people in this community that I trust, and some I don't. Same goes for respect. These are qualities in a relationship that take time to develop, sometimes with a rocky start.

I'd like everyone who reads this post to stop and think about the wealth of experience and knowledge that is in this community. Think of the 'tried and true' gecko breeders and keepers that we all at least know of. Then think of how many of these valuable people that actually post here on this forum. I'll bet everyone can agree that very few do. Why do you think this is?

One of the reasons they will not post on forums is because it is too frustrating to deal with all the sophomoric drama, arguments, and cry-babies that think they are not being treated fairly. Also, there is the element of redundancy in answering the same questions over and over for many who can't be bothered with doing their own research. It's the feeling of entitlement so many seem to possess that just want things handed to them without having to work for it. New "breeders" that feel they should have automatic credibility because they keep a few geckos and have a website with a cool name... without having to pay their dues to the community to earn that level of respect and credibility.

Sooooo... stop crying and suck it up. Grow up and quit squabbling, or I just may have to send the Mean Old Gecko Lady (or Seamus) to straighten you out.
 

acpart

Geck-cessories
Staff member
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There's been a lot of good advice on this thread about how to deal with advice. I generally avoid the drama. It's true that some people on the forum provide great information in a kind of rude and gruff manner. I am also grateful for their advice and recognize its value. Though I don't get into discussion about it, in my opinion "rude" is "rude" and inexcusable. Taking my own advice, I will continue to be polite even to the rude posters.

Aliza
 

Golden Gate Geckos

Mean Old Gecko Lady
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Good advise, Aliza. Ultimately, we do not have any control over how and what other people post... only ourselves. Sometimes taking a look at how 'we' post can predict how others respond.
 

acpart

Geck-cessories
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I definitely agree. That's why I just don't let myself get involved in some of the angrier threads unless I feel there's something I can post that will deflect what's going on and be a positive influence.

Aliza
 

Dragoon Gecko

New Member
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Europe
Well, I've had my head (and other body parts) ripped off by Seamus... and I survived! I have also done my share of ripping on a few people as well. This is a community, and even if the relationships are online without the physical interaction, it's still a relationship in it's own unique way. ANY relationship has it's ups and downs, good times and not-so-good, disagreements and arguments, as well as encouragement and sharing. For me, the most important aspect of a relationship is respect and trust. There are people in this community that I trust, and some I don't. Same goes for respect. These are qualities in a relationship that take time to develop, sometimes with a rocky start.

I'd like everyone who reads this post to stop and think about the wealth of experience and knowledge that is in this community. Think of the 'tried and true' gecko breeders and keepers that we all at least know of. Then think of how many of these valuable people that actually post here on this forum. I'll bet everyone can agree that very few do. Why do you think this is?

One of the reasons they will not post on forums is because it is too frustrating to deal with all the sophomoric drama, arguments, and cry-babies that think they are not being treated fairly. Also, there is the element of redundancy in answering the same questions over and over for many who can't be bothered with doing their own research. It's the feeling of entitlement so many seem to possess that just want things handed to them without having to work for it. New "breeders" that feel they should have automatic credibility because they keep a few geckos and have a website with a cool name... without having to pay their dues to the community to earn that level of respect and credibility.

Sooooo... stop crying and suck it up. Grow up and quit squabbling, or I just may have to send the Mean Old Gecko Lady (or Seamus) to straighten you out.
Excellent post Marcia:main_yes:!!
/Rebecca
 
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